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Refuse to Be a Victim

Have terrible things happened to you?

If they have, understand that you can be a victor instead of being a victim of your circumstances by learning from people in the Bible who experienced terrible things in their lives and triumphed over their situations.

Refuse To Be A Victim Like Tamar

Tamar is one of the people who experienced many bad things in her life (Genesis 38) but she refused to accept a victim mentality. This is because her first husband Er was wicked and God killed him. According to the custom of that time, if a man died without a child, his brother was to marry his wife and bear children to perpetuate his name.

Er's brother Onan therefore became Tamar’s second husband but instead of helping her get children, he emitted to the ground. God did not like this act and killed him.

Her father-in-law Judah then sent Tamar back to her father's house to remain a widow until his third son Shelah had matured enough to marry her though he had no intention of fulfilling his promise because he did not want him to die like his brothers.

Tamar inspite of being sent back to her father’s house as a childless widow of two husbands, refused to a victim mentality.

We know this from the fact that when she saw that Shelah had grown up and she had not been given to him as wife, she took matters in her own hands and ended up being the mother of twins called Perez and Zerah. (Genesis 38:29-30)

Tamar was therefore able to change herself from a victim of her circumstances (two time widow with no children sent back to her father's house) to a victor over her circumstances (mother of twins mentioned in the genealogy of Jesus. (Matthew 1) Therefore regardless of what has happened to you, refuse to accept a victim mentality and a victim's fate.

Refuse To Be A Victim Like Joseph

Joseph also experienced terrible things in his life because his brothers sold him into slavery and then his slave master's wife falsely accused him of attempted rape and he was thrown into prison.

However even when he was in prison, we know that he did not have a victim mentality because when he found Pharaoh's butler and baker sad, he asked them the cause of their distress and interpreted their dreams for them. (Genesis 40:6-8)

A person with a victim mentality would have had a defeated attitude and would not have bothered to help anyone. Therefore regardless of the bad things that people have done at you, refuse to accept a victim mentality, a victim’s behavior and a victim's fate.

Refuse To Be A Victim Like The Woman With The Issue Of Blood

The woman with the issue of blood also Suffered many things (Mark 5:26) in her life but she refused to accept a victim mentality. For starters she had a bleeding problem for 12 years. This disease made her Suffer many things from many doctors (Mark 5:26) presumably as they tried to treat her.

Then this disease made her broke as she spent all she had and yet it continued to worsen instead of getting better.

Her financial situation could by itself have depressed her and made her accept a victim mentality since it potentially meant she could not consult any more doctors for her worsening condition but she did not let it bring her down.

In addition to the financial issues arising from her bleeding issue, this woman also had social issues arising from the same bleeding issue because it made her a social outcast. 

Once, again she did not let these problems make her accept a sick role or victim mentality.

We know this because in spite of all her issues, when she heard about Jesus, she decided to come to Him and she was able to change herself from a victim of her circumstances (broke woman with an incurable disease) to a victor over her circumstances (woman miraculously healed by Jesus from a 12 year condition ). 

Therefore regardless of all the physical, mental, spiritual, social or financial conditions you are suffering from, refuse to accept a victim mentality and a victim's fate.

Instead of accepting to be a victim, emulate these three victors and do the following things so that you can also become a victor of your circumstances:

Have Faith in Jesus

The woman with the issue of blood was able to change from a victim to a victor because she had faith that Jesus could help her. We know this because Jesus told her Your faith has made you well. (Mark 5:34)

Therefore have faith in Jesus the Son of God especially if you are dealing with issues that do not have an earthly solution by simply believing that He can change your situation for the better because With God all things are possible. (Matthew 19:26)

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Speak Your Faith

This woman with the issue of blood spoke what she believed because she said to herself, "If only I touch His garments, I shall be made well." (Mark 5:28)

Therefore speak the positive things you are believing will happen to your situation since The tongue has the power of death and life (Proverbs 18:21).

For the best results, confess Bible verses since The sword of the spirit … is the word of God. (Ephesians 6:17)

For example, if terrible things have happened to your health you can confess He sent His word and healed me. (Adapted Psalm 107:20)

If terrible things have happened to your marriage you can confess A man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife and the two shall become one flesh. (Ephesians 5:31)

If terrible things have happened to your children you can confess The Lord will pour His Spirit on my descendants and His blessings on my offspring. (Adapted Isaiah 44:3)

If terrible things have happened to your finances you can confess I shall lend to many nations but I shall not borrow. (Adapted Deuteronomy 28:12)

If terrible things have happened to your ministry you can confess Thanks be to God who always leads me to triumph in Christ and through me diffuses the fragrance of His knowledge in every place. (Adapted 2 Corinthians 2:14)

If terrible things have happened to your business you can confess In all labor there is profit. (Proverbs 14:23)

If terrible things have happened to your job you can confess Promotion comes neither from the east nor from the west nor from the south. Because God is the Judge: He puts down one and exalts another. (Psalm 75:6-7)

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Renew your Mind

The Bible tells us, Be transformed by the renewing of your mind. (Romans 12:2) Therefore, transform or change yourself from a victim to a victor by renewing your mind with the Word of God.

To do this, go through your Bible and find Victor Scriptures that you can meditate on and confess. Perfect examples of these Victor Scriptures include:

God is perfecting that which concerns me. (Psalm 138:8)

I am confident that He who has begun a good work in me will complete it. (Philippians 1:6)

I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. (Philippians 4:13)

In all these things I am more than a conqueror through Jesus Christ who loves me. (Romans 8:37) 

With God all things are possible. (Matthew 19:26)

Therefore every time a "Victim Thought" like “I will never succeed” enters your mind, cancel it by reminding yourself of a "Victor Scripture" like In all these things I am more than a conqueror through Jesus Christ who loves me. (Romans 8:37) 

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Discern God’s Will

The Bible tells us, Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind so that you can discern what is the good, acceptable and perfect will of God (Romans 12:2)

Therefore, instead of conforming and accepting to be a victim because of your current situation, change yourself to be a victor by meditating on God’s Word so that you can know what He would like you to do for your situation.

So after meditating on your "Victor Scriptures" pray and ask God to reveal to you what you should do to change your situation for the better.

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Do Something Physical

The woman with issues did something physical by going to Jesus and touching the hem of His garment.

Joseph did something physical by working well in the prison and using his gift of dream interpretation to help others.

Therefore instead of wallowing in self-defeating pity parties, do something physical that shows you believe that your situation will change for the better since Faith without works is dead. (James 2:26)

For example, if you are unemployed, you can send out other job applications even if you have applied to hundreds of jobs before. And, as you wait for the replies, begin using your gifts and talents to make some money and help other members of your society. 

Refuse To Be A Victim is part of our Free Christian Ebooks Series