Is It Bad to Fight Your Family?
My answer to this is "Yes, it is bad to fight your family because Jesus tells us that A divided house cannot stand." (Mark 3:25)
This means that if members of the same family are fighting each other that family or house will break down. That infighting in that family can make it fall socially, emotionally, physically and financially for example due to divorce.
If disagreements arise between members of the same family or house, it is best to resolve the conflicts as soon as they develop.
If disagreements arise between members of the same family or house, it is best to resolve the conflicts as soon as they develop.
For effective family conflict resolution follow these steps:
1. Set a Time to Meet
Set a time for all the disagreeing or fighting parties to meet face to face.
2. Let Each Party Speak
Give each party time to air their grievances without being interrupted.
3. Focus on a 50 50 Solution
When resolving conflicts, a 100 100 solution that addresses all the needs of all the parties, is the ideal solution. However, this is rarely achieved. Therefore, focus on finding a 50 50 solution that addresses at least 1 need for each of the fighting parties.
This means that at the end of the meeting each party should leave having felt that they were heard and they received something even if it is a promise that the other party will change.
We can see a good example of resolving conflicts in the family when the Israelites from the tribes of Reuben and Gad asked Moses if they could settle on the eastern side of the River Jordan instead of crossing it and fighting for their Promised Land on the other side with the other Israelite tribes. (Numbers 32:1)
Moses was against this plan because it would discourage the other tribes from fighting and this would anger God. (Numbers 32:15)
He, therefore, resolved this problem by telling the Reubenites and Gadites that they would be blameless if they built their homes on the eastern side but their armed men crossed the River Jordan to help their brothers from the other tribes fight for their Promised Land on the west. (Exodus 32:20-22)
As a result, the tribes of Gad and Reuben got what they wanted and the other tribes of Israel also got their help in fighting for their Promised Land on the western side of the Jordan
Therefore, instead of fighting your family, fight the problem by finding a solution that serves all the members of the family.
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